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Rebekah Hawkins
Rosemary McNaughton
Clover Lewis
Kristin Taylor
Sarah Rossmassler
Jolene Cook
Mynnde Corey
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REBEKAH HAWKINS
Hazelle's Birth, July 11th 2007
When I first found out i was pregnant i am surprised
at how much pressure i felt to have a hospital birth.
I was raised in the woods of NH by back to the land,
hippy parents. We are still a family who often chooses
holistic herbal medicine over western practices. My
mother's best friend was a home birth midwife who is
an amazing person and had been one of the first to
practice midwifery in NH after an inspiring trip to
the Farm. I witnessed women in many stages of
pregnancy and even birth at her house and saw how
safe, natural and rewarding the experience is. But
when i found myself pregnant many years later at the
age of 34 I was shocked to look around and find that
not a single friend was planning or had a home birth.
What was happening? Suddenly i felt surrounded by
scary stories of what can go wrong in labor. Because
of my past and my skepticism of hospital births for
normal pregnancy's, my husband Christian and I
decided to do a lot of research to see how we felt. We
interviewed all that the area had to offer; from OB
practices to home birth practices. In the mean time we
began to see an OB in Northampton just to cover our
bases. Through our research we began to trust our
original instincts , when every time we spent time
talking to home birth midwives we felt relaxed and
every time we were in the doctors office we started to
worry about what can go wrong. I decided to make the
final decision out of faith and not out of fear. I
felt like the only reason I would have chosen the
hospital was the fear that something could go wrong.
Most of the time nothing goes wrong, people have after
all been having babies this way from the beginning of
time.
I chose to have faith that it was just as safe to have
a baby at home, maybe even safer than the hospital in
many cases.The statistics we had read and research we
had done furthered our resolve. When we met Tanya and
Kirsten we immediately felt like we had found the
right people. Before we even left the office and my
husband and i discussed it, i knew that they would be
the ones. Each time we visited them we felt more and
more positive and excited about the birth of our baby,
empowered by the fact that we were in charge.
At midnight on July 11th I felt contractions begin. In
the weeks leading up to that there had been several
times that I had 'practice' contractions and i was not
sure if these would be again too. I went back to sleep
,woke up again at 4 am and told my husband, Christian
that I thought i was in labor.
Because we were not sure and there had been false
alarms he wasn't sure if HE thought I was in labor. I
told him to go back to sleep and i went downstairs and
cleaned the whole house.
I was so happy I had gotten what I wanted, to go back
to sleep and get some rest before the big event. I had
been worried that i would be scared of labor, griped
by fear when it set in after so much anticipation but
now that it was beginning I really was not, i was
excited. I knew that people would be coming and it
felt good to be moving and working. At 6 am they got
stronger and I woke him up again and we timed them,
they were 6 mins apart now and we both got up and went
for a long walk. The sun was coming up on a beautiful
summer morning and we were so excited because i knew
that this was the day our baby would be born! When we
got back from our walk, the contractions were faster
4mins apart. We called Tanya and Kirsten to let them
know that I was in labor. I didn't feel pressure yet
for them to come over, I thought it could be a very
long time that my contractions were the same, (this
turned out not to be the case) and I also had this
fear, knowing myself that I may feel pressure that i
would put on myself to have a smooth, quick labor. We
said we would call back. Strangely though I did not
feel afraid of the birth like I had thought I would,
now that it was happening I was much more relaxed than
i envisioned. Christian made me breakfast and we sat
and talked. After I got in the bathtub (my own even
though we were going to begin to fill up the birthing
tub that was up in our bedroom) There I tried to relax
and felt a bit trapped. It was a preview of what for
me would end up being something that while works very
well for many people did not work for me, laboring in
water. When I went upstairs to our bedroom i remember
standing by our bed and i had a very strong
contraction that broke my water all in one pop! It was
really intense. Also, I started to notice that all the
'pain' i really felt was in my back. This was the
'back labor' that everyone swore was the worst thing.
It was intense and yet it was just like Tanya and
Kirsten had said, not a pain like when you hurt
yourself, not like anything else because this was a
pain that would get my baby born. Tanya and Kirsten
came in the bedroom (Christian must have called them!)
and I lost my breakfast all at once. The tub was
almost full now and I got in. For me that water felt
good but slowed my contractions. Christian got in the
water with me for part of it. There, one of the most
special moments of my life happened. Christian and I
were looking in each others eyes, it is so hard to
explain the depth of feeling then between us;
happiness,pain, elation, loss of our old lives, the 17
yr's we have been together, the excitement/fear of the
unknown- the future, all flashing before us, this
BIRTH, our new family beginning! I will never forget
that moment. I will also never forget how supportive
he was, how patient and loving. It also seemed like
all the moments we needed to be alone we were and all
the moments we needed our midwives they were there.
That is because of the intuitive people they are, but
it is also something one would never get in another
environment like a hospital. In the tub and out all
three of them would put pressure on my lower back to
ease the pain, it did help.The second time I got in
Tanya said to me; 'Rebekah, you are a walker maybe the
water is not working because you like to move and that
is what you have done your whole pregnancy'. I thought
that was a really good point and decided to give it a
try. From the time I had gotten pregnant I had walked
45 mins every day. First I tried walking up and down
our long staircase. Then in circles around the floor
of our house, which is a big Victorian church so it
was perfect to walk in. I was om-ing and trying to get
my sound lower (this is good to help the baby come
down) but i wanted to scream a bit too! which I did
and it felt really good. I suddenly felt like I wanted
to push and reached down to see my hands had white
film on them, vernix! I thought I still had a long
time to go-time was flying-, It turned out i had
walked right through transition. Our midwives said
maybe it was time to go upstairs .This is where I
wanted to deliver our baby in our bedroom which is the
former pulpit of the church, under a special gothic
arch. The entire labor i didn't know how many
centimeters I was dilated (both b/c Tanya and Kirsten
don't check unless it is wanted and b/c I didn't want
the pressure of knowing. I was very grateful for not
knowing, because I can be very hard on myself.
At the base of our bed I started pushing. Pushing
contractions were very different. The contraction
could be used for each push and it felt great to be
active and productive. I tried a few positions but
squatting proved best for me. I was facing the end of
the bed and Christian-Tanya and Kirsten behind me. I
don't know how long I was pushing, time was passing in
the strangest abstract way. At one point Kirsten moved
the last part of my cervix away to make sure it did
not slow things down. They encouraged me to touch the
top of the babies head and it was the best feeling. I
could feel hair and it was good for both of us because
we both needed encouragement. The baby rocked back and
forth a while and at one point we needed just a moment
of oxygen as her heart rate slowed a bit (which is
very common). In one final push she was born! I had
not wanted to find out if we were having a girl or boy
and what a blessing to have the surprise after the
hard work and to get to inspect her for the first
time. I put her to my breast right away and she
licked, knowing at once what to do. I looked into her
eyes and felt the most incredible happiness, relief,
the deepest love. We waited for all the nourishment to
drain from the cord and Christian held her. She knew
both of us and it was in her eyes. Seeing him hold her
was such a moment, one that I had dreamed of a long,
long time. Cutting the cord was such an intense and
amazing thing. I knew this was the end of sharing my
body with her, individuation. I had loved being
pregnant so much. I really cried when I cut it.The
cord and the placenta were so beautiful. They looked
like they had been designed by the most talented
artist, the colors bright and vivid. Her little world
she had been in all her life so far was amazing to
witness and imagine what she had been seeing and
feeling inside. Tanya and Kirsten gave her her first
exam right in our bed and then made us an excellent
dinner. We lay in bed together, our new family and
slept in a deep peace.
When I look back at Hazelle's birth I am so immensely
grateful and proud. I love to tell people how she was
born, wishing everyone could know how incredible home
birth is. I feel such a life long connection to Tanya
and Kirsten, they became our family through this
process. Our baby was born here, in our home in such a
peaceful, graceful way. Her entry into our lives
seamless and safe. I believe this is reflected in her,
in the way she experiences her life. We are grateful
with all our hearts for the fortune and blessing of
Hazelle's birth at home.
DAD'S PREGNANCY-BIRTH SYNOPSIS OF HAZELLE'S JOURNEY FROM WOMB TO WORLD:
Within the month prior we had just started trying to get pregnant - before that it was just talk & possibilities, with just a bit of carelessness. so when it became official it was, for me, a bit shocking. The idea of creating a new life took some time to settle. I suppose that's part of the plan though - equal gestation for child & parents-to-be, all adjusting to the coming growth. when we started to discuss where & how our child would enter the world I realized that I was operating under the assumption that children are born in hospitals, period. though in no way allopathically minded - the idea of homebirth brought to mind a naive vision of unsanitary hippies, or, those without the fortune of a decent hospital nearby. Even after my wife began talking about wanting to do this, and me warming to the idea in theory - I couldn't help hold on to the feeling that we might be exposing our unborn child to unneccesary risks in the face of our desire to have the experience on our own terms.
As we made the obligatory steps in meeting with the OB and the hospital - we also started to meet with midwives & research what would be involved for us based on either choice we made. once we learned more & really started talking about it, it didn't take long to realize that there was really only one option for us - to plan to have our baby in our home. when we met Tanya & Kirsten it greatly helped solidify our feeling that this was the right choice for us - and that really, our roles as parents began with these decisions.
Part of the connection we felt immediately was the positivity they exuded for the experience. we felt strongly that we didn't want to go thru the pregnancy with fear and neuroses (which can arise when you are nearing 35 & faced w. genetic testing, etc.) and that we wanted to embrace the health & well being we felt physically & mentally going into it. due to the knowledge & experience they offered - we had complete faith in their skills as midwives, their confidence as professionals, and their fortitude as individuals. throughout the 9 months we were able to develop this initial trust to the point that, as the days drew closer, we felt only the anticipation of the excitement at getting to meet our daughter with no other concerns standing in the way.
We woke up around midnight on july 11th & my wife told me the real contractions had started (after many 'practice' rounds) - I wasn't sure this was really it and somehow we both managed to get back to sleep for a few hours. we then got up & took a walk around dawn, ate some breakfast and made the call - tanya & kirsten arriving shortly thereafter. predictably, they were perfect facilitators, mind readers, and all-around good witches helping rebekah move from each phase to the next without ever getting in the way or directing the experience out of our hands. when the birth itself happened at 2:57 the next afternoon - we shared our most profound experience all together right there on the bedroom floor. It was, and continues to be, the most beautiful moment I can imagine.
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